Just Listen



Today's experience was a bit different, most of us feel the same but it is not, time is the important factor, in how long and under what circumstances the events unfolded themselves.

 

I met this girl sitting by the sea writing something in her small book, I thought she might be a writer, taking down points for things, so I struck a conversation with her asking if she was a writer and what was she writing?

 

she told me she's not and she was just trying to jot down some points to figure out stuff. I asked her if she needed help with that, an outside perspective wouldn't hurt

 

So we spoke and she started opening-up about her recent incidences of how she was affected by recent events happening in her life

 

She continued “It is not that these recent events that have happened to me affect me so much, but the repetition of events” with a very emotionless face she told me

 

“History repeated itself with me, again and again” she continued “I know I am in a bad place, I try to come out of it, but I do, I reach the edge then fall back again”

 

“I understand” I replied to her, which I knew how she felt

 

“Do you?” she asked me 

 

“Yes I do” I replied “ yes I have been through that before” 

 

“It is not always the solution you need, mostly its someone who would just shut up and listen to what you have to say” she explained “there always those who want to give a solution to things, who lack the maturity to understand a problem” she continued with the same blank emotion on her face

 

I understood immediately how much she had been through mentally

 

It is not that you are the worlds best, it is just being there not giving lectures or presenting options. Mostly it is sitting in silence and listening to the problem. Being mature enough to say it is not just you, but to say I know it you, and you will be okay, or you will find a way, you are strong enough.

 

Don't talk in a way that will make you feel superior, talk in a way that you would be liked to be spoken to, respecting the problem of others, and treating them as such. The nature of the problems might be the same if compared to others, there are other factors of time (how long it has been going or how long do you have) when it has happened under what circumstances, and the emotional and mental state of that person at that point of time.  These factors differ from person to person.

 

You cannot say that oh it is gonna be okay to a person with a stronger mind and just say it the perspective you need to change to a stupid person who doesn't understand it will just make things worse for you and them,

 

THINK BEFORE YOU TALK!!!!!!!!!!


-Anif Xec

 

Comments

  1. Calvin Monteiro15 July 2021 at 09:02

    Interesting perspectives 😊

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  2. Unknown15 July 2021 at 12:19

    A good take on different perspectives!

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  3. Hazel28 July 2021 at 07:55

    Listening- most important part of good communication!

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