‘The wanna be’

Today a friend and I were talking about a few past incidents. How we have encountered and attracted different kinds of people in our life.

 Thats when I mentioned, that there are a few theories and sayings,I subscribe to in my daily life that helps me avoid a few problems, and gauge a person. One of things I believe in, is there are two types of people's behaviour.

 1. ‘they are'. 

2 ‘the wanna be’

1- The people 'they are', are the kind of people who live their life, comfortable with themselves and have originality. They do not seak approvals, will try new things and content. 

You can make out when you observe they have a naturality to their behaviour.

For eg:

 The term 'Old Money', we use it when an person in well dressed, because it's his or her nature to dress well, that is how it has always been and it is natural as second skin and the person knows the value of it.

When the wealth of commodities and personalities are inherited and imbibed positively.


2. Now Coming to ‘the wanna be' 

There are people that always chase something, They Never were and never will be: they are always one step behind. you can easily spot them, when you can see the crude behaviour and loads of pretend. 

It is difficult to understand, If you dont know how the people ‘ who are’ live their life. 

Only if you have seen the original product and are used to it you can Identify the fake.

 These are the people, who have a narrow mind and a narrow focus. They always ignore the wider prospective. They are very narrow sighted because they are chasing something they are not.

For eg.

 I will me ‘New Money' It is life when you see or come into possession of something you never had seen or experienced, they go crazy.. they start doing everything over the top and just blow everything out of the proportion, they also just blindly struggle to posses things that makes them think that the false perceptional structure elevation of their status, which is purely based on self assumption.

If you can Identify these patterns you can avoid a lot of future problem to self and people surrounding you. The easiest ways to know are the following 

1- How they talk 

2. Dinner/lunch etiquettes

3. Dressing sense. 

4. How they handle money.

You will know the differences when you observe a few people of different settings of life. The difference will be subtle. On the same behaviour, but the impact will be huge. It might Seem like a waste of time; or you might say you don't have time for others

But this exercise can avoid so much future toxicity and life long scars.

(‘Old money’ and ‘new money’ is just a form of terms used to describe people, they don’t necessarily mean monetary possessions every single context)

Comments

  1. redpan8 September 2024 at 15:59

    I like the identification of the “they are” group. Simply being themselves, authentic - they just “are” rather than trying to be.

    ReplyDelete

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

Mad-less

  What  kind of madness is this? The logic escapes me completely. The more I try to make sense of it, the more lost I become — like sinking into quicksand. The harder I try to understand, the deeper I’m pulled into something bottomless and unreachable. How can you look at me the way you do, speak to me the way you do, act around me the way you do… and still say there’s nothing there? Why even bother then? If there’s truly nothing, then please — don’t talk to me. Don’t look at me. Don’t come near me. I get it now. The message is loud and clear. Just because you’re drawn to chaos,  because complication thrills you and makes you feel alive, doesn’t mean you have the right to drag others into your web for your own amusement. Some of us already have enough chaos in our lives. We’re not searching for a puzzle, or a game. There’s no tug-of-war here. It’s either yes, or no. And if it’s yes…  then let it be joy, not confusion. Let it be clarity, not cruelty. Because I’m done ...
Read more

How lovely it would have been.

  I was walking today, a cold winter night, very foggy, by myself. I was walking, have and a thought popped in my head,  'How lovely it would have been!?’   How lovely it would have been,  If you were here with me,  How lovely it would have been,  If you were the source of my warmth,  How lovely it would have been,  If you were by my side hand in hand,  trying to explore eternity.  How lovely it would have been,  when your hand are cold, I would have love to warm them for you by holding them tight. How lovely it would have been,  just walking by your side,  listening to your silly laugh after every sentence. How lovely it would have been,  looking up at the sky, knowing you are there with me,  How lovely it would have been,  going into a random cafe,  enjoying the night talking, stress free,  without any worries, How lovely it would have been,  when I try and flirt you look away, Shy, changing...
Read more

The high of missing.

  Here I am ,   Sitting in the train, infront of all the strangers, Each one different than another, But they are here, and not you! I know more about them, then I do about you. You aren’t on my mind, I am not thinking of you. I haven’t thought about you for days . Since we last spoke , I deserve that respect,  But here I am missing something I never had, never experienced. I don’t want you, don’t text me, Don’t tell me you miss my words for you, The poems I wrote when we were alone, The music I composed when you would stall, The feelings I expressed when we fell, I don’t want any of it back, I like the high of missing, Missing something I never had. Don’t you dare, come infront of me,  I am not hurting, I am not waiting, you will be kicked out, You are already out , The 3 strikes are you, But I like the high of missing, Missing something I never had. -AXM
Read more